Apparently the average number of sexual partners people in the UK have in their lifetime is 7. At 27 I think I’ve had 50 though I lost count at 30 a few years ago so 50 is probably the most likely number it may be more it may be less. To give you some perspective the majority of these partners have been one or two nightstands – I’d say about 70%. 10% would be sex workers and the remaining 20% would be something that went further then just a couple of dates. Like with nearly every person I know in life I would have met a good 90% if not more of these bed fellows through the internet, raves or festivals or some extension of the 3, it’s also worth mentioning that a lot of my opinions stem from my experiences with the people I’ve met known, fucked and loved in this bubble… The rest I would have met through other means.
Though very few of my relationships have been emotionally meaningful and though I’d agree that some aspects of my emotional detachment towards the act of sex may not be entirely healthy I think that my experiences with a wide variety of different partners justifies me writing a sexual manifesto. Now as with everything I write, regardless of how sanctimonious it appears to be this aint intended to be a set of commandments for how I think you should live your life. As always you’d be doing yourself a huge injustice if you take a cunt like me totally seriously. If you disagree with any of it or find any of it problematic for any reason then that’s up to you. This is just the way I do things and whether you agree with them or wish to condemn them then that is your god given right to do whatever you like and I celebrate that whole heartedly. But yea here’s everything I’ve learnt about sex so far…
- Monogamy is probably nonsense
I have never had anything close to a monogamous relationship in my life and I cant see myself agreeing to one anytime soon, I don’t see the point. My first experience in a non-monogamous agreement was when I was 18 with a bird who had 2 other blokes on the go at that time. The concept of non-monogamy weren’t in my lexicon at that time but seeing as everyone involved didn’t seem to mind then I couldn’t see what the problem was. It weren’t until I got into online dating and ended up shagging my first married poly woman that I started to cotton on to the freedom and logic of open relationships. Then through my student years I found myself involved with a few women each who either had other partners or who were very aware of other partners I had at that time and again all of it was calm and made total sense, no one was jealous and no one was weirded out, everyone was in the clear. Then I met Deirdre when I was 21 and what followed from that was 4 and a half years of us fucking our way through multiple partners serious and otherwise all whilst maintaining a solid relationship of communication and honesty between each other. Through all her boyfriends and lovers I never once felt unsure of where my place was in her life, I never felt threatened by any other partners she’d take on because I knew she loved me and she’d display this in many different ways. I said to her once that one of the reasons I loved her and that I felt so secure was that despite the multiple relationships and shags she’d had whilst I was around she never got bored of me, she always had time for me and that’s what made the most sense about our agreement…. Then a couple of weeks later she found monogamy and mugged me off shortly after.
For those of you unclear basically the set up is 2 or more people maintain every aspect of a normal relationship aside from the demand of exclusivity. Therefore each partner is free to date, shag, fall in love, show affection to and in some cases get married and have kids with other people. All this is done within the boundaries discussed by the partners and protected by the fundamentals of honesty, communication and trust. It’s only cheating when one of the party is dishonest and this can come from straight up lying to withholding information from the other partner/s. A simplistic description for a large umbrella term that covers many varying practices some different to what I’ve just described, but if you really want to know more then there are shitloads of articles and posts you can find online… There’s nothing a non-monogamous person loves more then writing about how great their open relationship is.
I’ve never found myself at a place in life where exclusivity has been convenient to me, but I suppose it’s worth mentioning for full disclosure that I’ve never been the primary partner in any of my previous set ups I’ve always been the bit on the side, the new friend they’ve started fucking or just the guy they’re going a date with. A position I’ve always been happy to be with. I spose the older I’ve got and the more experience I’ve gained with dating and relationships and the more car crash monogamous relationships I’ve seen play out in the my circle of friends the more pointless I’ve found monogamy to be. Why should someone have to chose an exclusive partner if they just happen to like more then one person at the same time? Why cant they pursue both? Also the idea that once you’ve started a relationship with someone you can no longer pursue urges with anyone else you come across, why do you have to restrict all your natural urges to just one person? Why is there such an issue with your partner sleeping with someone else when you know they’re into you and they aint going anywhere? Why cant your partner pursue something nice with another person that they also enjoy the company of and like spending time with? Why do you have to be the only person your partner kisses and cuddles with? The human mind is capable of many wonderful things, surely being able to pursue a natural urge or maintain feelings and love for more then one person is a basic function of said wonderful brain?
I’ve never understood what the issue is with someone I’m intimately involved with going off and doing what they like with someone else as long as they’re being open and honest about it. I don’t own this person, they are free to do whatever they want as am I. Also having communication and honesty as a fundamental of your agreement means there can be no reason for one individual to not trust the other. With my experiences when someone I’ve liked has started spending more time with another person I’ve never had any reason to get all pranged out about it, if they like this person and they want to shag them they’d just tell me and I’d be cool about it. Why should I be worried about anything?
There also seems to be a lack of autonomy in monogamy. There seems to be this underlining narrative that the 2 people own each other and are obliged to do certain things together, are to be seen together and generaly come as a pair at social events. This sounds absolutely horrible. I don’t want to spend every waking minute with just one other person that would be horrible. Go off and do whatever you want. Live your life you don’t need me there all the time.
I often think the reason so many people go through with exclusive relationships is just because that’s what society has told them to do. The whole concept reeks of jealousy, insecurity and ownership, I cant fuck with any of those social constructs.
Now I aint saying non-mongamy is for everyone, far fucking from it! It does take a certain individual who’s totally aware of and keen to stick to the fundamentals. Of course there are people in life who aint comfortable outside the confines of knowing that the person they love has feelings and affection exclusive to their own needs and desires and that’s up to them I spose I can see why that be nice. Then there are the people who just cant be honest with other people and they are doomed to fail at many different relationships in life. I’d only ever pursue any form of non monogamous relationship with someone, whether it be just the odd shag, a new friend to kiss and cuddle with or someone to go hard R with only if I was absolutely certain they knew what they was doing and more importantly that everyone else intimate in their life also knew what was going on.
Obviously I can respect people’s decision to enjoy their very happy and functioning monogamous relationships, I have no lack of respect for those people, some of the people I respect and admire the most practice it very faithfully and happily. It’s a lot like belief in anything really, I’m totally down with you getting on with things just don’t expect me to join you anytime soon.
All this being said, though it’s the weapon of choice for me I can totally accept that the ideology is worshipped by a select few elitist wankers and this can understandably put people off. I’d never label myself as Poly for example as I consider the Polyamourous community to be more dogmatic in their beliefs, really rather holier then thou in the way they express themselves and the title itself is always used as something that defines the individual and to be honest I find someone’s relationships choices to be the least interesting thing about them usually. Oh also don’t get me started on those ‘Don’t ask, don’t tell’ set ups either. I find them agreements to be a bit fucked and surely only ever end in tears.
My therapist questioned me on my stance of monogamy once. He gave me a hypothetical asking that if a girl who matched my requirements in every way and was pretty much perfect yet wanted to only pursue a monogamous relationship with me would I be cool with that? My answer was that she wouldn’t be the perfect the girl if this were a requirement… I then followed up with ‘the situation has never arose so to be honest I really don’t know’ Just watch if and when I do end up in a serious relationship and then reveal just how insecure I am and end up having one of those relationships where the two people are completely inseparable and I end up getting really jealous with every other bloke she has anything to do with. If that day ever comes I await the harshest roasting from all of you dear listeners.
- Celebrate Ethical Promiscuity (Especially the women)
It’s not that I have a lack of respect for people that aint promiscuous, if you’re particular with who you have sex with and feel that you can only engage in a shag with someone you have a certain connection with then that’s totally fair game, I aint going to laugh at you for living your life that way. However I do have a special reserve of respect for people who shag everything that moves, especially the birds. Women unfortunately still have to deal with societies left over stigma simply because they enjoy sex with lots of people. It’s a tired phrase but the statement of a bloke who shags 100 bird it makes him a lad and the bird who’s shagged 100 blokes is a slag still rings true for a lot of people. I don’t have any in my demographic of friends but I kind of want to find a lad who’d turn their nose up at a woman simply because she gets around a bit just so I can say ‘Bruv! There’s none of that stupid fucking around with this bird! She’s no nonsense, she wants to fuck you because like you she’s up for a shag and she just happens to want to do it with you!’ If anything people should be encouraging women to be more sexually liberated, it would save us all a lot of hassle. Just ask yourself this… What is wrong about 2 consenting adults wanting to have fun with each other? And then what is wrong with one of those adults wanting to have fun with as many people as they’d like?
Personally if I catch wind that a girl has fucked her way through at least 50 blokes by her 25th birthday my ears prick up, I automatically think she’s cool and I’m certain that we’re going to be friends. She’s got plenty of experience in bed, it’s likely that she’s pretty open minded and is not adverse to the obscene sex act you’d like to try – it’s even likely she’ll ask you first. Also if you’re shit then it’s likely she’s probably had a lot shitter so you wont feel guilty. But despite that superficial bollocks it’s also a sign that this person is adventurous, doesn’t give a fuck or comply with conventions and is pretty easy going and game for a laugh – all attractive traits in my book… Sometimes this aint always the case and sometimes people are just on a sex bender because they are trying to numb some sort of pain or trauma or are trying to plaster over some crack of insecurity. I’ve been this person on said bender before and it’s a cold and lonely place to be.
All this being said ethics are of course absolutely essential if you want to fuck around. I follow a few simple guidelines; Question why it is you’re being dishonest about your bed buddies. Now I know not every cunt likes to shout about all the people they’ve been shagging recently and that’s fair game if you’re a private person. I respect this and so I run on the rule that though I may not go telling everyone I know if I’ve shagged someone within a friends group, I’ll never lie for anyone when questioned. If you’re being dishonest about who you’re sleeping with then you probably shouldn’t be sleeping with them in the first place. Fucking through friend groups can be problematic so make sure everyone is cool in that scenario. Always be clear what capacity your shag is and always rubber up, I aint no angel when it comes to it sometimes but it does make you feel like less of a cunt and you’ll feel even more of a cunt if you were to catch something and pass it on to several different people. More then anything just don’t be ashamed of what you’re doing. If you’re open and honest and on a level with all your partners then you really have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
Big up to all promiscuous fuckers out there especially the birds – fuck what boys, society and your mates might say about you, deep down they’re jealous because you’re having all the fun. We’re on this earth for a very short amount of time, we’re sexually active and attractive for an even shorter amount of time so why not share the consensual gift of sex with as many people as possible? I love you filth fuckers! If it weren’t for folk like you blokes like me wouldn’t get laid.
- Consent is easy. Just ask!
Consent is a bit of a buzzword these days yet people still seem to struggle with it like a problem when the solution is so easy. Just ask! It really is as simple as that. Honestly you’ll feel more of a cunt from the negative reaction diving into something then you would if you simply just asked permission in the first place. You find yourself on a date and things seem like they’ve been going pretty well but you’re not quite sure on your dates signals… Just ask. Ask how they reckon things are going, ask if they think there’s a connection between the two of you, ask if it’s alright to kiss them if you’re still unsure, in practice it aint as clinical and awkward as it probably sounds.
Here’s a situation; you’re getting along famously with your date, you end up back at their place, they show you their collection of original Talking Heads records, you end up swapping spit, things are getting saucy and you both know the score. At this point they probably aint going to mind you sucking her titties or chewing fanny or sucking dick. In most cases once you’ve crossed the boundary and have arrived here there’s no need to ask but it never hurts to say before hand. But its when you arrive at anything like arseholes or feet you should never assume people will be ok with that because a lot of people especially blokes can get weirded out about butt stuff and a lot of people get freaked out by having their feet touched. So I for one always ask before eating arsehole or sucking on some piggies. But it’s common sense really, don’t just go spitting on and slapping someone you only met a few hours ago and don’t go calling them the most degrading names under sun unless they’ve made it clear that it’s cool. If you’re riding bareback make sure it’s alright to unload inside of them, equally if you’re getting sucked off let them know when you’re going to cum. Just ask! if they say no then that’s the end of it and move on, don’t be a dick and start begging them over it, it aint the end of the world.
The absence of a no don’t constitute a yes and don’t think you can persuade people into doing things because that’s weird. You’ll find chemistry flows so much better when the two of your are vocally on the same page and at the end of the day how hard is it really to just ask?
- Draw Caution When Drinking and Shagging
They say that we spend a 3rd of our life sleeping, I like many other Brits spend the other 3rd drunk and seeing as I can think of no better date then going down the pub I then in turn end up doing a lot of my shagging whilst shitfaced and let me tell you it is mostly pretty terrible. I’m never at my personal best, my stamina is completely depleted and these days if there’s one thing that’s sure to give me boner death it’s a skinful of booze. I’ve come away from a lot of drunken one night stands hoping I can get one more chance to show the person what I’m actually capable of. Maybe the reason most of my partners are one night stands is because they think I’m totally shit at sex? Food for thought.
But it aint just poor performance you have to look out for mixing shagging and alcohol is a bit of an ethical minefield. If you’re sober and in you’re in a situation where someone else is drunk and they are coming onto you, don’t fuck them! Goes without saying for most people because despite the very thought of shagging someone who’s pissed up when you’re straight is a creepy thing to do, there’s also nothing more annoying then a drunk person when you’re sober, especially when they’re trying to crack onto you. The situation differs for more long term partners who are aware of each others boundaries I’d say. One bird I was shagging for a few months liked the scenario of me taking advantage of her when she’d sometimes show up at my house pissed. I’m pretty sure there are plenty of people out there in serious relationships who’ve been woken up by their steaming partner returning home from the pub at night looking for a leg over. The two of you most likely respect each others boundaries enough by this point to know it’s cool when someone asks for a shag when they’re pissed and you’re straight.
It’s also important to take responsibility for your actions when drinking. Probably not the most popular of opinions considering the current climate but I’m of the belief that drunken consent is still consent. I’m more referring to situations where someone’s nympho meter goes up to 11 after they’ve had a few and have a habit of ending up in bed with a fellow reveler of equal intoxication rather then the creepy cunt who gets people wasted so that they can fuck their lifeless body, situations like that are assault and should rightly be treated as such. The reason I differentiate the two is because if I was to speak out against everyone who I regretted fucking the following morning because I was pissed up the night before, well all those accusations would take up a lot of my time. Alcohol makes us act like idiots and often we end up doing shit we regret the following morning, sometimes this can be the date that we end up taking home that we didn’t really feel any chemistry from it just seemed like a good idea at the time. Don’t be throwing nasty accusations around just because you have buyers remorse about the person you ended up in bed with. When the 2 of you are both blottoed then a drunken yes is still a yes in my book, you’re an adult deal with your decision. Cant hack it then stop drinking or at least stop getting yourself into situations where you do stupid shit when drunk.
I am aware I’m wading through merky waters and blurred lines trying to make a point here but please don’t think for a second I am trying to play down genuine abuse. I am still conflicted by the woman who got on top of me when we was pissed one night despite me not being into it. I was pissed and I never said ‘no’ even though I really weren’t up for it. It’s a memory that still makes me feel very uneasy partly because I know that If I weren’t as pissed as I was I would have definitely stopped it from happening.
- Personality Beats Looks Every time
Honestly there is no bigger paradox than wanting to fuck someone just because they look hot. In my experience good looks very rarely negate good sex. Infact some of the worst or at the best the most average sex I’ve had has been with some of the most conventionally attractive women. Good sex comes down to chemistry at the end of the day, it’s all about communication, flow and knowing what the other person likes and this is usually achieved by matching personalities. Similar senses of humor, being interested in the person’s life and achievements and what they’ve got going on, enjoying their mannerisms, knowing where they’re morals lie, being comfortable just talking bollocks with them and a whole host of other nuisances that I’ve blatantly forgotten.
Shagging some plant pot because you like the way they look is a fucking stupid idea. I’m more likely to want to go to bed with someone because they also have an encyclopedic knowledge of The Simpsons and laugh at farts rather then the fact they got big titties and a face like Margot Robbie.
- Known Fact: Fat Birds Are Better at Sex
Now I’m bias because fat birds are my type. Curves, big thighs, squishy bellies, deep handles, large arses and huge titties are all things I find incredibly attractive on a woman. But physical attraction aside in my experience fat women have been better at sex by some way. Don’t get me wrong I aint saying that I don’t find skinny women attractive and I aint saying that they’re a guaranteed poor shag it’s just fat birds have always been better. They’ve had more enthusiasm, more drive, their skills are more developed. It feels better getting ridden by a larger woman and they’re curves, grooves and crevasses are so much fun to cuddle. They’re usually the kinkiest shags and there usually seems to be more of a guarantee of anal with a lot of them for some reason.
There also seems to be a lot less baggage attached to them. Fat women who I’ve fucked always seem a lot more confident in themselves then there skinny counterparts. They have better sense of humor, are always clear with their intentions, are a lot more forward and have never ended up being a total mind fuck and generally are just not as fucking insane as skinny birds usually are. All these attributes have me drawing the conclusion that they are just better then skinny women. Maybe I’ve just been lucky.
I’ve had murmurs from a few Internet people in the past that my attraction is a fetish but I don’t pay these thick cunts any mind. I know what my type is and it’s someone who has a lot more then a 30inch waist.
So shout out to all you fat birds out there! Stay large!
- Sex Workers Are Normal People
I’ve been a paying customer of sex workers for some time now. When I’ve been suffering from a case of a horn, usually a post festival horn that wanking just aint taming and I’ve exhausted all the potential booty calls in my phonebook and if I’ve got the extra 100 odd quid laying around in my bank account sex workers have always been happy to help with my predicament. And in my experience every single one of these women has been happy in their work and very eager to please in their services like I imagine the majority of sex workers in this country are.
Over the years I’ve befriended, dated and been in partnerships with people who were either currently or previously on the game and each of them spoke positively about their experiences. From what I could gather from my time with these people was that they enjoyed having lots of sex for free as it was, why not do it and make loads of money?
Despite having a mostly liberal friends demographic I can sometimes find myself battling with the opinions of a few that sex work is something to be pitied and that the sex industry is mostly abuse and desperation. Now I aint saying that human trafficking, exploitation and people using sex work to desperately survive debt and addiction aint issues that need to be addressed, I just think that in the grand scheme of things it bares resemblance to ‘Immigrants stealing are jobs and exploiting our welfare system’ hysteria – I don’t doubt it don’t happen, it’s just if you looked at the data from a reliable source you’ll find it’s on a very small scale.
Sex work is just like any other service industry job, yea sure you have to deal with a lot of rude twats, it’s exhausting and stressful at times but you can start on over 10 times the minimum wage right now and if you have any specialist skills you can charge even more and as a woman it’s probably the only job where the gender wage gap favors you by some way over men. You can work from home, choose your hours and state the exact conditions you want to work under. Given the choice of either 12 hour days working the floors of a restaurant for £7ph praying I get good enough tips so that I can go out on the sesh when I eventually have a weekend or a night off, serving arseholes who are repeatedly rude and belittling in different measures, working for a company that makes far too much money and under a manager who’s only care for my well being is that I make it to work on time and do what I’m told, or pleasuring lots of different people from the comfort of my own home, making what I’d earn in a week in the restaurant in just a matter of hours without even having to get out of bed and I could I decide when I wanted to work and who with…. I’m over simplifying again no doubt but you get the point.
Despite our ever evolving and progressive ways of meeting new people it’s still seen by a lot of people I know at least as just not the done thing to pay another consenting adult for sex. You can mindlessly swipe right on a dating app until you finally manage to find someone who’s not just mutually attracted to you but who you can also snare with gambits and anecdotes and one liners until they agree to go on a date with you, then once you’ve spunkend a load of cash on dinner, a few pints and maybe a ticket to a stand up show maybe they’ll let you come back to theres and maybe they’ll let you fuck them if you’re lucky and then if you’re really lucky maybe that sex wont be 10 minutes of missionary until the alcohol destroys your hard on – All that is totally cool, no one has a problem with that anymore. But if you want to sack off all that carry on and just pay someone £120 to peg your arse and piss in your mouth within the first few minutes of meeting you, no questions asked and no judgments made for some reason you’re made to feel like some low life, deviant by your closest mates.
The other one I hear quite a lot is ‘sex with prostitutes don’t count’ in reference to adding a lay with a sex worker to your bedpost tally. A ridiculous and really vicious statement to make. To state that sex with another human being don’t count for any reason is a very troubling opinion to have.
But what does properly piss me off is that a lot if not all of these opinions come from people who’ve never paid for sex, have never knowingly met a sex worker and have absolutely no knowledge of how the sex industry works it’s just an opinion they’ve made up from the doom and gloom they’ve read in the papers or seen on the news or on some budget Netflix documentary.
Now it aint my place to say what sex workers want or need because I aint one nor do I have any ambitions of becoming one – I hate people far too much. But come on lads! They’re just normal people like you and me stop pitying them or judging what they do or be ashamed that you’ve used their services. They’re normal people who unlike us get paid when people want to fuck them.
- Cuddles are not a sexual act
There is no greater platonic display of affection someone can display for another person then the act of cuddling. Laying in bed with someone who’s company you enjoy stuck in an embrace for a long period of time is almost better then the act of sex itself… In fact in my more lonelier periods of life I’d find that I’d look forward to cuddling a bird after then I would to the sex itself.
Apparently our enjoyment of cuddling is an evolutionary one. Mammals born in the wild have a better likliehood of surviving the closer attachment they had to the ones who could feed and protect them. Which kind of makes sense as to when you’re cuddling your friend all feels right in the world. Though there probably is some neurological connection of enjoying a cuddle and enjoying sex, I see the two as completely different acts. Cuddles are a sacred platonic activity that are enjoyed best with the people you love the most Just because I want to have a cuddle and fall asleep with someone don’t mean I want that cuddle to lead to sex, it’s just nice. Yea sure boners happen, especially in the morning but as long as everything is kept in the pants it’s still innocent. I have nothing but pity for people who cant differentiate the two. Cuddles are better then sex.
- Be The Filthiest You Can Be
If there’s one-piece of advice I can give that I implore you take on board it’s to be the filthiest fucker you can possibly be when having sex. There is truly nothing else more liberating then exploring the darkest, dirtiest corners of your sexual psyche with your partner.
Try anal play of all kinds! Rimming is an art form and penetration and pegging are the final frontier. Use enough lube and prep with enough fingers, go slowly and everything will be fine. Shit does happen every now and then but it wont hurt you just clean it up. If you still don’t enjoy it at least you tried and you know now. Question what exactly weirds you out by it.
Pissing on each other is fun. Just drink plenty of water and try to avoid doing it when you’re drunk as alcohol piss is pretty putrid. I’ve never once tried any sort of scat play as I predict all will be well until one of you has to clean it up… That being said I’d never rule it out.
Personal hygiene is something I could give less of a shit about. Infact I encourage a bird who is all sweaty and musky not to bother taking a shower before we get down to it, I prefer a bit of gunpowder when I’m chewing fanny or eating arse. Also more women should not bother shaving their armpits. Pheromones are sexy.
Sex is a filthy act anyway, you’re already rolling around in each others bodily fluids, sticking your mouth around organs where piss and shit come from, if you’re in for a penny may as well be in for a pound.
- Shag Every Gender
We really limit ourselves sexually by only sticking to one gender. I questioned my own sexuality a few years back after I reflected on all the men and trans folk I’d fucked. I aint one for labels so I never really liked the title of ‘bi’ and though ‘pan-sexual’ is by definition the title I fall under I still don’t like to define myself with any sexual title.
Sometimes I have moods when I like to shag blokes and in the past have stumbled my way into the sexual paths of both trans men and women and other who aint decided yet. My overlying preference is for women in general they are more beautiful, more soft to touch, warmer to cuddle and generally excite me more then any other gender. But then I get on a lot better with blokes, I grow fond of them a lot easier but am more picky when it comes to sexual attraction.
I don’t want to open the tin of worms that is the gender debate as it’s not my place to but if you was to ask my opinion I’d say that I couldn’t give a fuck what you label yourself as. Just let me know what you want me to call you and I’ll try my best not to get it wrong. In this day and age no one gives a fuck whether you’re into fucking blokes, birds or whatever’s so there’s never been a better time to experiment and discover that you do actually like cock. Whatever your gender, come eat and drink and sleep with me.
- Have respect for every person you fuck
Regardless of how far you detach yourself from the emotions of sex there’s no denying that it’s still an act of intimacy with another human being and when you trust someone enough to bring them back to your bedroom and allow them across the boundaries of consent into sex you’re displaying a respect for that person you wouldn’t necessarily display for even your closest friends. Consenting to fuck someone is one of the highest compliments you can bestow on someone and regardless of whether your intentions were down to you being pissed and just having a laugh or just another notch on the bed post on the run of a sex bender, there should always be a mutual respect between every sexual partner.
Don’t go ghosting someone after a one-night stand. Ignoring someone after they’ve bought you drinks, made you laugh, listened to your anecdotes and then made you cum is the height of rudeness. Even if it’s clear you’ll never see this person again it really don’t take much to respond to someones ‘thanks for last night’ message with a simple ‘thanks, it was nice to meet you. Good luck J’
Don’t go shouting about all the nitty gritty details of your fuck especially if it’s someone your friends may know. Just general manners really, don’t go telling all your mates that said partner couldn’t get a hard on or that they love being tied up and degraded and love it up the arse that’s not your place to broadcast it. However if you write a blog centered around your sex life always ask permission first and change their name.
Keep your partner in the loop at all times, don’t be displaying feelings you don’t really mean, don’t just say things to keep them happy and always be honest with them when they ask you where its at. There’s nothing more selfish then leading someone on so that it benefits your own needs.
Don’t go pestering them when you know they’re not interested. If they’ve made it clear that you’re sexy agreement is now over then accept that and move on, don’t try and pursue something the other person clearly aint into.
It’s all common sense really. This person was willing to give you oral sex until your face went numb at one point so it wont hurt to return the favour with some mutual respect.
I think thats it for now
Play me out Mozzer….